Panchini (engagement)

It is the first stage of pompous Bengali marriage ceremony. It is the function where Ring is given to bride by the guardian of bridegroom. The guardian of bridegroom comes to the house of bribe with engagement ring, sharee, sweet etc. At this occasion sweet is one of important item at any occasion of Bengali society.Normally the father or mother of bridegroom gives ring to bride. At the absence of parents, any one senior relative of bridegroom gives the ring to bride. At this occasion, the date of marries and the amounts of ‘Denmahor’ are fixed by the discussion of the guardians of two families. ‘Denmahor’ is very important matter. It is the Islamic role. Bridegroom gives it to bride. The amount of ‘ Denmohar’ depends on the financial ability of the bridegroom.The half of this amount is paid at the Panchini time of marry. It can be paid by gold or cash. Any asset or cash will pay the rest of the amount in future. The total of ‘Denmohar’ mast be paid before the death of bridegroom. Hence, bride can excuse her husband. It is Islamic System.
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Text source: Independent (Magazine, 2006)